Anger Management

Dr. Randy Pauche in his speech which is famously known as ‘the last lecture’ says that, I have never found anger to make any situation better. So true! But anger management may not be that easy at all for people when they confront situations that make them angry!

Since the concept of holistic living is in vogue these days, it’s not at all a bad idea to start the write up with just the same. We my well start by raising the question, ‘what comprises Holistic living’? Living that is in harmony with or ensures the well being of all living entities in our inner and outer world is what we may call as holistic living. It connotes a lifestyle that is in perfect agreement with the environment in which you are living.

In other words it signifies a lifestyle free of anger and stress. Both of them are detrimental to individual and social well being. The cause is basically the same. When things do not go the way we want them to, we feel upset and depending upon the whether we respond or react to the situation we arrive upon a state of emotional misbalance called as anger.

Often when an individual fails to express his/her anger, the same piles up mentally and leads to a condition of stress. The same is true for a social setup. Neither is beneficial to individual and social well being. In fact in one of the studies it was found out that anger and stress are the root causes of unhappiness in human beings. Anger and stress management are concepts that are heavily stressed upon these days.

But managing anger and stress may not be that easy, considering we are living in a very fast paced world that is demanding and looming with uncertainty at every step. Our work and lifestyle are such that there is little scope left for introspection and peace. People have forgotten the concept of living! How to re-start living then? Before we discuss stress and its management, it would be wise to talk of anger management. Once people exercise a control over their anger there are less chances of feeling stressful. Anger well managed means no stress!

It is often very easy for people to admit mistakes in the hindsight. The problem arises how to manage anger in its moment of occurrence? Psychologically controlling asks for shifting ones locus of control from external to internal. People with internal locus of control it is believed and verified through researches, are calm, peaceful, responding and not reacting and happier. For us to manage anger better, we need to shift our locus of control from external to internal.

holistic living calls for absolute involvement and harmony between all parts of an individual’s existence i.e. the head (for thinking), the heart (for feeling), the hands (for giving) and the soul.